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Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Survivor's Guilt?

Harriet continues to improve at an astonishing rate! She still has pain, but here are some of the things that have happened in the past two weeks:

1. She's driving again. (Exciting progress in terms of her pain, but it is also like being driven around town by someone who is trying to kill me.)

2. She has applied for a couple of summer jobs.

3. She is doing (some) schoolwork, on her own, no prodding from me.

4. She is helping out with Gunny the Magnificent Chewing Puppy and has decided she wants to train him to be a therapy dog so she can help other people.

All of this is fantastic, miraculous, joyful, hopeful as we watch her heal and look forward to a pain-free day for her sometime in the future. It really seems possible now!

And then... THEN... I feel guilty. I feel awful when I tell another Pain Parent about Harriet's progress. Because I remember that I was happy for other Pain Parents when their kids got well, but my heart tore open as I wondered, "Why not MY kid?" So here I am on the other, happier side of that equation and it is tearing me up. Is this some kind of survivor's guilt? Am I being silly or hypersensitive? I just can't decide.

What do you think? Is it encouraging to hear that someone else is healing when your child is still hurting? Or does it make you feel worse?

Saturday, March 3, 2012

"My Secret"

Not a lot of children's books out there address what it is like to be in chronic pain. But here's one!

My Secret, by Gretchen Rautman

Here's the book description from the link:

"This is the story of a child's struggle with a secret; that she is in pain. The child does not know how to share her secret, and is scared of what people will think of it. Through the story, the child learns how to share her secret and cope with the pain. This book is based on my experiences with chronic migraine as a young child. It includes talking points at the end of the book for adults to help get an idea of what their child who is suffering is going through. This book can bring an understanding between adults and children who are suffering. It can be very scary to a child to be forced to deal with chronic pain, and my wish is that this book can help comfort and inform. All proceeds go to the Migraine Research Foundation."

Because the author herself has childhood experience with pain, I have high hopes that she'll provide a useful perspective. If you and your child have read this book and found it to be helpful, please let us know!

(My chronic pain kiddo may be a little old for this, being 16 and therefore knowing EVERYTHING [insert eyeroll], but I might get it for her anyway.)

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Timeline: My Child's Pain

July 17, 2010: Harriet got a migraine – pain, light and sound sensitivity, nausea, the whole shooting match. She’s had them a few times before, so no worries – we just gave her her meds and put her to bed. But it didn’t work this time. Before the month is out, we’ll go to her doctor twice and the emergency room once, complete an MRI and bloodwork, and we’ll start chiropractic care.

August 2010: Still trying different meds and Harriet has to drop out of cross country. Another trip to the ER.

September 2010: Local neurologist has “tried everything,” including various meds as well as trigger point injections. Harriet is referred to a pediatric headache specialist.

October 2010: We give up on chiropractic, which only seems to be making things worse. Pediatric neurologist tries different meds and sets Harriet up with a pain psychologist and biofeedback. Bloodwork shows a CoQ10 deficiency.

November 2010: The migraine is worse than ever. A one-week hospitalization with meds that make Harriet throw up every 6 hours help her pain very little. By now, side effects from meds have made her lose about 20 pounds, and she was slender to begin with. We worry about her weight but continue to try everything the doctors recommend.

December 2010: We see a neuromuscular dentist, who diagnoses TMJ and recommends a $5000 dental orthotic that he says will help, so we get Harriet fitted for that. She mourns the fact that she can’t be on the basketball team this year.

January 2011: Small improvement with the dental orthotic, but not enough to improve Harriet’s quality of life. School is a struggle. Revolving door of meds gives Harriet terrible side effects, including panic attacks.

February 2011: Headache is getting worse again. Lots of missed school. We’re getting adjustments to the dental orthotic every two weeks.

March 2011: Harriet is frantic with pain. The pediatric neurologist admits her to the hospital again. A spinal tap shows nothing out of the ordinary. Five days in the hospital and nothing works. Another pediatric neurologist examines Harriet for less than 5 minutes and says, “There’s nothing left for you but psychiatry.” Harriet is inconsolable that there is no hope. They discharge her from the hospital with her pain at a 10 on the 0-10 pain scale, with no recommendations for what to do now. We decide to try going to Diamond Headache Clinic.

April 2011: A full week in the hospital in Chicago with the Diamond Headache Clinic. No new diagnostic tests, although bloodwork shows mild anemia. Harriet’s pain goes from a 10 to an 8. DHC puts her on an MAOI, which comes with all kinds of restrictions for diet and other meds that can have life-threatening interactions. We start cranio-sacral physical therapy to help with the muscle pain in Harriet’s neck, back and shoulders.

May-August 2011: No real improvement in pain, but the MAOI is making Harriet gain 10 pounds a month. She is stressing out about her weight and has stopped sleeping altogether. She stays up around the clock most days. Counseling helps us all deal with the stress of chronic illness. The one bright spot is physical therapy, which is really helping her muscle pain.

September 2011: Harriet is switched to a different MAOI, which resolves the sleep problems but the weight gain continues. No improvement in her pain. Our doctor leaves the practice at Diamond Headache Clinic so we wait to see a new one there in October

October 2011: We meet the new DHC doc: Dr. Personality. Her first question is, “How is the depression?” It goes downhill from there. At our insistence, Harriet is taken off of the MAOI. By now she has gained almost 60 pounds with no improvement in her pain, so why keep on this path? On our own, we take Harriet to an ENT, who says her “migraine” really sounds like occipital neuralgia to him. He does a nerve block in his office that gives Harriet the most relief she’s had since this started. ENT orders an MRI of Harriet’s sinuses and neck, and refers us to a local pain management doctor.

November 2011: Pain management doctor agrees with the occipital neuralgia (ON) diagnosis and does a more precise nerve block. More relief for Harriet. We start researching ON and find out about nerve decompression surgery. Dr. Personality scoffs at the idea of decompression surgery, saying it’s “too soon” … when Harriet has been in pain for well over a year. We ignore Dr. Personality and schedule a consult with Dr. Fancypants, a plastic surgeon who does decompression surgery, to see if Harriet is a candidate. We’ve stopped all meds except a muscle relaxer and Harriet is less of a zombie now.

December 2011: Another visit to Dr. Personality, who again asks about depression. When asked why she keeps bringing that up, she says, “Well… Harriet seems quiet.” We remind her that Harriet HAS A MIGRAINE. Undeterred, Dr. Personality wants to re-try antidepressant meds, and we refuse. We don’t schedule another appointment with Dr. Personality, and we go see Dr. Fancypants for our consult. He is wonderful, his nurse is wonderful, and he recommends nerve decompression surgery as well as sinus surgery. Harriet seems hopeful and encouraged for the first time in months and months. We hold our breath to see what the insurance company says.

January 2012: To our joyous surprise, our insurance authorizes coverage of Harriet’s surgery.

More updates to come…